Comments on: It Takes A Village

By: Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 23:23:15 +0000

Ugh! That is unbelievable! Who the hell says that to parents while their child is in the PICU??
Why do our own parents assume we’re hypochondriacs or just hypervigilant where our own children are concerned? I truly believe doctors need to learn to listen to parents better because no one knows our children like we do.

By: Veronica

Veronica — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 23:15:03 +0000

oooh I so understand where you’re coming from–my MIL and SIL have done this with GenevaClaire since birth–oh she’s fine, she’s just like her cousin, nothing wrong, blah, blah, blah. No help, from her or my parents (but my mom’s disabled) and it takes a detailed, blunt letter from a genetics doc at age 3 (this has been going on since she was a 25 weeker preemie)outlining all of her issues and now they suddenly believe it–WTH? Were we lying, being overly dramatic, making the crap up? I’ll never forget when GC coded on the operating room table for 3 minutes at 5 months–my SIL said Oh she’ll get over it, it’s no big deal–this said while we are standing in the waiting room of PICU. I nearly went to jail for assault but my hubby got me out of the room fast.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:06:26 +0000

Thanks sweetie. I really appreciate your support. Hugs!

By: Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:05:59 +0000

Isn’t that the truth. I think being aware of it is such a big thing. I never want my daughter to feel second rate.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:05:01 +0000

Thanks Terri. I suppose that’s part of my issue. I’ve been told so many times that I’m petty and that this is all in my mind, that I’m hesitant to be angry about it, even though my husband and friends back me up. Strange how much control my parents still exert.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:03:22 +0000

Really? That is just odd. I don’t understand blatantly favoring one grandchild over another especially within a family. It’s really too bad that old attitudes such as ‘children out of wedlock’ affect our kids.

By: avasmommy

avasmommy — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 16:11:56 +0000

You are mirroring a lot of the same issues we are having with my father in law right now. It would take a novel to tell it all, but I can say I totally understand where you are coming from. (HUGS) .-= avasmommy´s last blog ..Mothers =-.

By: ThatMommy

ThatMommy — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 05:01:05 +0000

That is hard to deal with. I went through something similar with my 3rd pregnancy (i have 6) and my mother very very rarely watches our kids, but she has my sisters kids all of the time. i seriously hope i never do that to my kids.

By: trobin40 Terri

trobin40 Terri — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:59:33 +0000

Thats hard I was raised by my moms sister and husband neither have seen my 2 mom passed away but we were not close.Its hard thing to deal w/ be proud of yourselves and realize how strong you both are and what a great mom you are.Its ok to be angry cut yourself some slack.

By: ali (adil320)

ali (adil320) — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:19:56 +0000

I don’t have a good relationship with my parents at all. I’m so sorry that you didn’t have them to lean on when you needed them. I hate that they favor your brother’s child over V. If it makes you feel any better…My mother favors J over C because he was concieved when we were married. Old Troll.
.-= ali (adil320)´s last blog ..Panic! at home =-.