The Good Doctor
Just a quick Vista update for those who care.
So… we had an appoint with our family doctor on Monday to talk about Vista’s inhalers and I also wanted to talk to him about some of her specialist flagging some of her behaviors as autism markers.
Visiting Dr.F is always interesting. First of all he is the ONLY doctor that Vista likes. She will let him check her, and even pick her up, with no screaming and crying. And then there’s the fact that Dr.F totally think the sun rises and sets with Vista. You see, she was his very first patient in his practice (in fact before he even had a practice). He was her doctor when she was in the Special Care Nursery (a step down from NICU), when she was born. And so he’s always taken a special interest in her.
I love the fact that she’s so relaxed with him. It makes a visit to the doctor so much easier. And I also like the fact that I feel like he listens to me and doesn’t dismiss me as a neurotic mother. That’s a rare and valuable quality in a doctor these days.
The first thing we discussed were her inhalers. And the fact that, yes, the doc at urgent care had prescribed her an inhaler that was way above her age range (thank you Dr. Lori for bringing that to my attention). We confirmed that she doesn’t need to be on inhalers full time, but when she gets a cold, she’ll go on them for a week or two to keep her airways open. I’m happy with that arrangement and it seems to work for Vista.
Then we talked about some of the autism makers we’re seeing. Stuff like lining up toys, counting things over and over and over, and other OCD quirks she has. He agreed that it was probably time to get her in for a formal screening, so he’s made a referral to the Children’s Hospital in the city. He’s not overly concerned, especially because he’s thrilled with where she is with talking and walking in light of her brain issues. He said that any autism she may have would be mild and it may just be her quirky self.
Before we left, I asked him if he had received a call from Children’s Services back in December. Surprise, surprise, they didn’t call him either. That’s 3 names I gave them and they called none of them. Unreal. I still have to check with Vista’s pediatrician to see if they talked to him. What I found interesting is Dr.F guessed within 2 seconds of hearing my story who it was that had reported me. He’s asked me to gather some information about the CS investigation and pass it on to him and then he is going to file a formal complaint against the pharmacy (and pharmacist) who filed the report with CS. I’m apparently not the only person who has had problems with that pharmacy.
I have to say, I came away from this appointment feeling good about where things are and very supported. Having a good doctor, when you have a child with issues, can really make such a huge difference.
As we were walking out of the office, we ran into Dr.F’s wife who had brought him some coffee. The Dr introduced us and his wife immediately looked at Vista and said “Oh! Is this Vista Avalon?”. I must have had a “how the fuck do you know my daughter’s middle name” look on my face because she started laughing and explained that Dr. F talks about Vista all the time and they both just love her name, so it’s always stuck with her. Huh.
The biggest surprise of the whole visit, though, came with Vista gave Dr. F a hug before we left. And not just one of her ‘I’ll sort of lean into you and let you touch me’ hugs. I’m talking about an arms around his neck, squeezing hug. Apparently even she knows a good doctor when she sees one.