The Voice of Unpopular Opinion

I am the voice of unpopular opinion lately.  I don’t do it to be difficult.  I just genuinely have a different view of the world.

Whoopi’s ‘rape-rape’ comment has brought out strong reactions in people.  I get that.  It’s an emotional topic.  I stand by my opinion that she was merely clarifying the charge and the fact that Roman Polanski was convicted of “unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor” and not “statutory rape”.  I don’t think she was defending him or saying he shouldn’t be charged.  And please don’t leave me comments that ‘rape is rape’.  Trust me I’m clear on that.  If you’re angry about the distinction between the two charges then talk to your government and find out what you need to do to change the laws so that any sort of rape is prosecuted as such rather than being bargained down to lesser charges.

And quite frankly, even if you do believe Whoopi was defending RP, she is one woman with one opinion.  I don’t base my entire belief system on what one person says.  And I’m also not going to start a hate campaign every time I disagree with someones opinion.

I will not be sharing my survivor story.  When I say it doesn’t define my life, I mean it.  I have dealt with those demons long ago and they have no place in my current life.  Suffice to say I am a survivor, so please do leave me comments saying “you don’t understand what it’s like”.  I do.  And I was only 8 the first time something happened, so I get it in spades.  Details are irrelevant.  I Do NOT Let Them Define Me.  Period.  (and this will be the first time that Bil, who has known me for 13yrs,  will be hearing anything about this – that is the extent to which I don’t let it rule my life – so I’m sorry you’re reading about this here honey.  We can talk about it when you get home if you feel it’s necessary)

There’s also the Nestle drama going on.  I will not be joining the boycott.  If you feel it’s necessary, then, by all means, have at it.  But then I would encourage you to look at the practices of every corporation from which you purchase from, rather than picking one that just happens to be in the spotlight.   I’m not defending Nestle or their practices.  The fact is, their soy formula is the ONLY milk product V can take right now.  (Yes, my daughter is 2 and a half and still on formula.  Yes we are working with doctors, allergists, and nutritionists.  That is a topic for a whole other post).  I’m not going to jeopardize my daughter’s health for some corporate brouhaha.

Companies engage in all sort of … interesting… practices no matter what their area of business.  If you think otherwise, you’re fooling yourself.  I was on a project once, back in my corporate days, where we had strict instructions not to discuss the project in emails, notes were to be destroyed as soon as possible, and we were not allowed to discuss it using cell phones.  That is corporate America.  It happens in the most benign of companies.  THAT is reality.

My other big beef with all of this is – before you go trying to solve all the problems of the third world countries, why don’t you start in your own backyard?  You think that children aren’t dying of starvation in North America?  Wake up.  Need some proof?  Go take a look at these photo’s by Rafal Wegiel of children waiting, bundled up, in a snow storm, just to get some food.  Homelessness has taken on epic proportions with the downturn in the market.  Why is it easier to help some faceless child in Ethiopia then your own neighbor?  Bil and I refuse to sign up for any of those ‘sponsor a child’ organizations.  Instead, all the money we would put towards that, we put towards donations to our local food banks and shelters and to supporting our neighbors and friends when they need help.

Lets start solving our own problems, our own issues, dealing with our own demons, before we start worrying about what everyone else is doing.

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